Δ (My Life) – From Away To Back Home!!!

My recently concluded 12 day trip to Pune and around was quite a rejuvenation and mentally relaxing for me. Although, I was constantly cursed and reminded by my friends and colleagues about how lucky I was pulling off such long leaves. Even then, 12 days felt passing like the sand flowing from a clinched fist. That’s the place where I had spent most nourishing and enriching 2 years of my life working there. That’s the reason I keep going back there whenever I could. There must be some underlying feel good factor about it or a cause that allowed me to re think about why I moved out of Pune 14 months back in very first place.

Hmmm…. Let’s see that….

It had been a year this July since I moved back to Delhi from Pune for a greater good. My Parents were all that I could think of. I felt that it was a high time that I should put my responsibilities for them ahead of my career growth and take care of their already flailing health. Plus it would mean my well care to by my parents. Hence, I moved Back!!! 🙂

Within few weeks of  resuming work in Delhi/NCR (for same IT company…just took a transfer!), I had few realizations of my own regarding what my life has in store for me and how my career path would supposedly move ahead. All I had heard was that it isn’t gonna be easy. So I thought I would be prepared for it…I guess I was intuitive about it! :-/

Being practical and putting up all stats in my mind I analysed what Delhi has to offer: It has my family and loads of relatives; which obviously are my support centers and are indispensable. Secondly, it has the home advantage. I belong to that place. I have my roots in Delhi. Of course everyone ultimately wants to return home. That’s the dream, right??  Moreover, I have my friends in here, be it school guys or college friends and all other who are friends for all other random reasons which even I don’t remember. 😉

But being in Delhi, I have my own qualms. Life has changed completely. I mean literally!                  

Living in one of the most populous areas, constantly surrounded by walloping crowd snatches the peace away from life completely. 13 hours away from home for work leaves no space for any other    self -indulging activity and has rendered social life practically non-existent. Seriously, who wants to spend 4 hours daily of this busy life just travelling and being stuck in horrendous traffic jams!

All my day is spent dealing with mean and difficult people. When I come home I like it to be empty. The presence of others in my house kind of annoys me. I love coming home and shutting the doors. I feel brain dead. I’m relatively available, but not to live with.

Be it relatives or old friends, I haven’t met most of them ever since I have moved here permanently. Good were times when I used to be on home visit, had a craze for meeting these people coz u miss them and so do they. All that charm of meeting seem to have lost now.

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On the other hand life was easy out there (in other cities with IT’s presence). Everyone has ample growth opportunities in career at other places as compared to Delhi. I personally find people less aggressive and more happy-go-lucky back there. Social life is well developed and flourishing as people don’t live far away from work and spend ample time getting to know each other. Mostly people are bachelors or recently settled in new cities and hence are more open for experiments in life. Plus good weather and whole bouquet of places to visit around makes these cities (e.g. Pune, Bangalore etc.) even more desirable to settle in.

As they rightly say : “Home is where the Heart is!!!”

I still wonder how it would be to have a good and satisfying career along with parents living in serenity and peace.  Looks like a distant dream as of now. But who knows what life has in store for us…so just living and keeping hopes intact till then. O:)

 

PEACE \/

 

©TARANG JAIN

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Low on Inspiration in Life?? …..Try something Unconventional!!!!

When we usually feel lack of Confidence and hunt for Inspiring words, it’s usually filled with cliché advises – “Don’t give up”, “Get over it” or “Always look on the bright side of life” to name a few..

While they’re all correct at the root, conventional thinking like this just doesn’t work anymore. In fact, they are so trite and used so often that the message is lost to most of us. Its the time that we think some crazy and unconventional ideas to get INSPIRED…

I put a thought and found that following could be few of numerous ideas by which we could motivate ourselves in various spheres of our lives….

  1. Build anticipation-Get Excited!!

 This will sound hard, and many people will skip this tip. But it really works. If you find inspiration and want to do a goal, don’t start right away. Many of us will get excited and want to start today. That’s a mistake. Set a date in the future — a week or two, or even a month — and make that your Start Date. Get excited about that date. Make it the most important date in your  life. In the meantime, start writing out a plan. Because by delaying your start, you are building anticipation, and increasing your focus and energy for your goal.

  1. Post the Goal and HIT IT!!
    Print out your goal in big words. Make your goal just a few words long, like a mantra (“GET FIT –Exercise 15 mins. Daily”), and post it up on your wall or refrigerator. Post it at home and work. You want to have big reminders about your goal, to keep your focus and keep your excitement going. A picture of your goal (like a model with sexy abs, for example) also helps!! 

  2. The Smaller the better…Start small

             Sometimes the Smaller the Better!!!!If you are having a hard time getting started, it may be because you’re thinking too big. If  you want to exercise, for example, you may be thinking that you have to do these intense workouts 5 days a week. No — instead, do small, tiny, baby steps. Just do 2 minutes of exercise.

             REMEMBER…. Baby steps are all what you NEED!!!

  1. Get some Life…..Stop being so damn serious!!!

              Every one of us considers our job, our work as highest priority in life. The truth is; your work doesn’t matter nearly as much as you think it does. Sure, it might be important. People are potentially counting on you. There may be repercussions if you don’t get it done on time.

              But for the love of God, let’s stop acting like if we don’t get it done, our entire self-image and world is going to fall apart.

              Everything we build will eventually fall apart someday. Let’s stop acting as if everything is permanent. Let go. Relax. Create your art. Develop the artist in you!!

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  1. Consume all ideas: 

    New movies, new stories, new political opinions, new theories, without judging. Not personally—you’ll still have preferences and things you believe and don’t believe—but for the sake of what they might inspire. Try reading a genre you’ve never read before (romance novels, the sports section, Fortune magazine, a feminist essay), watching a type of movie you’d never otherwise watch. People start liking or doing things that they have earlier perceived as not their liking.

  1. It’s Time to Groove….Move your body!!

             Yes, seriously. Energy gets stuck in our bodies and our creativity gets stifled when we become rigid and stuck in the same postures.

            Need more ease in your work? Try yoga or dance. Get your energy flowing, but don’t shake it off. Channel it into your work.

  1. Stop Watching the News

    The media has the biggest influence on our society. Unfortunately what I felt lately that they are contributing to the crisis in our world in a negative manner.

    Try and Find your own news, rather, delve into the stories of inspiration and hope in your environment. The saddest aspect about our world is that we focus too much on the negative and not enough on the solutions to change it to positive. Once the media starts contributing to the greater good of our world, we will start to change for the better.

  2. Care to Share!!! Wise men have always said that exchanging thoughts and sharing knowledge is the biggest trait of Mankind. Good ideas from multiple sources could always be merged to form new, better ideas….so why hesitate??Share online and offline. Call your friends and talk about things, share your experiences and hear theirs. Aren’t you inspired yet to share?

Inputs : http://addicted2success.com/ , http://paidtoexist.com/inspiration-vs-motivation/‎ , http://zenhabits.net/

© TARANG JAIN